Resolving To Help

week! ly! check! in!

2011-01-22T20:20:58Z

Posted by: existence

( that picture thing, that we do like we do )

"True happiness, we are told, consists in getting out of one's self; but the point is not only to get out - you must stay out; and to stay out you must have some absorbing errand."

Henry James.

Greetings, earthlings! Almost forgot it was a Saturday and have paused before rocketing out the door to compose a thing. Time for your weekly check in post for resolving.

So how has your week been? Good, bad, just ordinary? Are you working on your resolutions, and what have you been up to otherwise?

Take a deep breath, and let’s let each other know: how’s it going?

Today's question is NOT taken from the States of Change--but they'll be back!--and is about looking towards the future:

Motivation: what are your motivations for the effort you're putting forward? What makes them personally inspiring?

Feel free to answer in the comments, or if you would like to write a journal entry about it—go ahead, just link it from the comments please.

Next week will be a doubleheadder of both weekly and monthly check in, to remind us all. Also! If you could mention in your post things you might want the first interview/review post to be on in your comments, that would be double plus awesome.

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weekly check-in #3, january 15th, 2011.

2011-01-16T04:29:06Z

Posted by: erika

( what the hell is a resolution for, anyway? )

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit."

Aristotle

Greetings, earthlings! Welcome to WEEK THREE of our amazing resolutions marathon. I'm erika, this is resolving, and here, in this very entry (!) is your check in post for this week.

So how has your week been? Good, bad, just ordinary? Are you working on your resolutions, and what have you been up to otherwise?

Take a deep breath, and let’s let each other know: how’s it going?

The question for this week is again taken from the Elements of Change, and it's about our dreaded foe, relapse:

Expect relapse — What might trigger a return to a former behavior?

Stumped? Some resources: What to do when your diet resolutions suffer from a relapse, or a PDF dealing with the same issues that's a little more general.

Feel free to answer in the comments, or if you would like to write a journal entry about it—go right ahead, just link it from the comments please.

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resolving @ 2010-12-30T12:38:00

2010-12-30T20:53:31Z

Posted by: existence

So, hey, things.

1. erika has offered to jump onboard with this mod thing, so you now have two mods. Her contact information has been added to the guidelines post. We will try to take the chance not to go mad with power at every opportunity.

2. We are thinking, for many reasons including privacy, of locking the introductions post and locking all future discussion posts, and would desire your input. We think it could be a way to create a more comfortable space for the personal stuff without cutting out all the content, but there are some drawbacks: if there are lurkers who are looking to get something out of this, we don't want to just cut them off without a warning. In any case, membership would likely remain open, as neither of us desires to alter the flow of people being able to come and go freely. Let us know, please!

View Poll: locked discussion posts

3. We're still taking links for an eventual resources section, and we also have anonymous, screened suggestions box.

That's it! Hope y'all are having a pleasant rest of the year.

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The Suggestion Box

2010-12-30T20:33:51Z

Posted by: existence

If you want to leave a suggestion or get in touch with the mods anonymously, here's where you do that! All comments are screened.

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Some plans, some questions, and a chance to get to know each other.

2010-12-28T03:39:56Z

Posted by: existence

Hello everyone, I'm existence, and I'm your host on the road to making your resolutions stick. This here is a community to help each other keep our resolutions, as previously stated, through discussion of our goals regularly, with each other, and whatever community wide activities that we attempt.

Plans! They're pretty awesome. Please note that at the moment, all my plans for this community are very flexible, and thus time scales here are all stated in tentative terms. I would like to draft a complete schedule and plans by next Monday.

1. In the next week, we'll be holding open the first post (here), a combination of friending meme and a time to share your goals for the new year.

2. The first discussion post would go up sometime next week, and would occur weekly, or perhaps more frequently if people want. Discussion posts would be a time to check in, announce changes, successes, failures, new resolutions and to help each other keep on track of our goals.

There could, either additionally, or replacing the regular discussion, be a monthly check in post to declare how you did that month.

3. Other activities! I've had people suggest to me matching up people to do the resolutions with directly. I'm also thinking about hosting if not more then once a week discussion post, maybe a post with a Weekly Question that everyone could answer in commn or in their journal, or hosting someone regularly who could talk about their goals in specific areas, like diet, finance, or the like.

4. I'm still feeling out mentally what other posting could go on here, so if you have an opinion on what you'd like to see or not see, now is the time to let me know.

I desire feedback, as much as you can give me, what sounds good, if you think things should be adjusted one way or another or if you have an idea about how things could be done differently or if something should be added. This is my first time in running a community like this, and if you have more experience in being in this sort of community and have tips or models you favor, I would like to look at those too.

You can reach me in the comments, at cookiepirate at gmail, or via PM.

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the dread pirate known as introductions

2010-12-28T03:38:53Z

Posted by: existence

This is a chance to get to know each other and share our resolutions that we're going to start in the new year, as well as any ongoing resolutions we may have.

Remember the community guidelines, although it's fine that if for this post and the next one, you bring up resolutions that you're not sure how to frame in terms of duration or exact endpoint. Secondly, I would encourage everyone to take a look at this, on how to set good goals for yourself.

The goal here is to set goals that are perhaps difficult for yourself, but ultimately achievable, and on your own terms.

Questions!

Name:
About You: Anything you'd like to share about you, and perhaps your motivations.

Three things you'd like to change about yourself: We all tend to have a very long list here, but what are the top three things that could be different?

Resolutions that you've made in the past: Ways to expand: Have the failed? Succeeded? What's worked, what hasn't? What would you do again? Etc.

Resolutions that you're making this year:
Resolution: The basic goal, in broad terms.
Plan: Your steps in achieving this.
Keeping track: Are you going to write on your personal journal? Use a website, a notebook? Let us know.
Endgoal: This will be successful if. If you have a broad range of definitions for success, please choose a precise goal in that range as well.
&c.: Anything else

Code!

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Welcome to Resolving! Have a cookie.

2010-12-27T09:42:19Z

Posted by: existence

Welcome to resolving! This is a general community for resolutions: making and maintaining them, just in time for you to get to making your 2011 New Year's Resolutions. A few rules before we get started!

( click to read the rules )

If there are any questions about the rules or the community in general, please ask in the comments below, PM existence, PM erika, or email cookiepirate at gmail dot com and/or midnightparadox at gmail dot com. Please remember to mention resolving in your note if it's not in the comments here.

Next up is going to be a friending meme and then a better description of what the comm's going to be up to in the new year! Hint: it involves a lot of milestones.

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